WHO HAS ANGER?  


 


Everyone has anger as it is a basic emotion along with love, joy, surprise, sadness and fear.

Many believe the most primal instincts are the four F's: fight, flight, fear, and fornication (sexual).

Anger has been given to all as a basic survival instinct to heighten our senses for either fight, flight or freeze (immobility).

When we were trying to survive on the planet against lions and tigers and bears or other large prey it was very much needed and used daily. Years pass and we are no longer in danger in present day living in urban centers of living...however for some maybe they are....just maybe our instincts still feel threatened and bring us back to this basic emotion time and again. The limbic brain does not forgot our past.

Are we still fighting lions and tigers and bears today? Some of us are!

Today's world produces many factors that play into anger and how we react or respond to it.

A few are:

  • Daily stress
  • The things we add to our bodies: such as smoking, drinking alcohol, prescription and non prescription drugs, illegal drugs
  • How much sleep we get each night
  • Balance between personal, work and spiritual
  • Our relationships whether intimate personal, business or worldly

Anger also seems to have a past, present moment and future within us.

The Past: Our subconscious never forgets so many of us relive our "stories" over and over. Pathways are created in the brain...neural networks that give us the fastest routes to response. When a child, we are sponges with unlimited neural pathways, but as we age we are directed by parents, society, school, religion, society morals, our ethnic group, and the country we live it to what is acceptable behavior and what is not. Our neural pathways become less, giving us faster paths so we "get it right" quickly. Or at least what the brain feels is right as enforced by these factors. A straight to B so to speak.

This is reaction. To manage the anger emotion we must become more cognizant of the stimuli and develop emotional intelligence that informs us what the correct measured response that is appropriate. This is what we do, we help you develop this ability. Anyone can learn it.

We take a look at the past for understanding and live and let live. We forgive ourselves and those who trespassed against us and live in the present moment. We heal. We grow. We don't make assumptions any longer, we ask for information. We start to accept life for what it is rather than trying to mold it to our own projections of reality. We no longer live in a black or white world (right vs. wrong, yes vs no, yellow vs blue, I am right vs You are wrong). We start to understand that there are many shades of gray (depends, maybe, green, not a point to argue). That everyone is entitled to their opinion and we don't always have to have the last word. We start to develop non judgment, and nonattachment to our own ideas. We start to embrace the beginner's mind like children and create space for amusement and joy and some fun. We don't take ourselves so seriously.

The Present: We go about our busy lives and then something happens to raises our anger emotion and we do what we do. It is what we know. There is a different path that can be created. Anger by it's very nature is very short lived. Adrenaline pumping, increased heart rate, blood pressure go up, as do the levels of your energy hormones, and noradrenaline. The breathing rate increases. We awaken the thinking part of our brain and CHOOSE our response. We take immediate action, we implement tools learned to appropriately respond to the situation. We act in a manner that is relevant.

The Future: We adopt a new perspective by saying what we are feeling and letting feelings process through us, we acknowledge our anger feelings, we let go of stress and become a Type B person, we use anger constructively. A decision is made. We want to change and be a happier person. We admit we experience anger and we take a look at it and how we dance with it. We move into anger management for a lifetime. We grow.

We can manage our anger emotion. We make that decision. It is done.

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